The Moneyist: My son is married to a selfish, passive-aggressive woman. How can I leave him money without her getting her hands on it?

Dear Quentin,

My 42-year-old only child married a woman 12 years ago.

She is selfish, a hermit, and extremely passive-aggressive. I don’t know why my intelligent son remains married. She has alienated ALL his friends and family. My daughter-in-law never attends family events. She has an 18-year-old disabled daughter who is very friendly….